September 19, 2012 2 Comments
I was relaxing at home reading 30 Bangs, when I saw my phone light up. Earlier in the day I was texting with a girl from online. She mentioned that she had taken the day off and was relaxing all day. I sent her a text:
“You should have invited me over.”
Right before I sent that text I remember reading a quote from the book.
“Then again women continue to reward bold moves made by men…”
I had just gotten her number about a week previously. If you saw her profile, you would simply not think that she would want fast sex. Then again I am continuously surprised by which girls come through.
I thought nothing of it and continued with my day.
Then I get this:
“What are you up to tonight?”
I answered truthfully, and said I was just relaxing after a long week but…
“I’m up for grabbing a drink, let’s go out”
“Yeah that would be cool.”
Previously I had told her I wanted to check out this new bar in her town. She lived somewhat far, a solid 40 minutes from me. She then threw out that suggestion.
“Why don’t we meet at *******.”
It’s then that I had a decision to make. I have a rule, I only meet up with girls who are within a 15-20 mile radius. Years ago when I started online dating, I would just drive all over to meet up with girls. My results? Pretty fucking crappy. My game, appearance, and confidence were much worse back then. I was thinking whether I should break this rule.
A few things motivated me to pursue banging this girl with all my energy.
1. She looked cute, tall with dark hair.
2. I had not been laid in a few weeks.
3. My instincts told me she was horny.
4. I had just read 30 Bangs, and felt extremely motivated.
With all these factors I agreed to go.
During the drive, I felt totally centered and confident. I told myself that this was in the bag already. I then reminded myself that this would be a good time to practice some moves from the book. The thing was getting laid with cute girls was not the problem. The problem was it would take two or three dates. Going for the home run on the first date still felt weird to me. Sure I’ve done it before and succeeded, but it still wasn’t part of me. I was hoping that reading the case studies in the book would help me with this.
I arrive at the bar and I notice a tall girl with a great body getting out of the car. My first thought was that she was hotter than her pictures. She had a short to medium length skirt, showing off long sexy legs. I later went on to find out that she used to be a volleyball player.
She gets in the bar before me and I walk in, she notices me right away and waves. I go to use the bathroom and get to work.
My date game is excellent. I’ve honed my skills by going on a ridiculous number of first dates. I remember when I first started I would make a pre-date checklist. I would literally have to remind myself to make certain moves. Nowaday’s it’s mostly habit.
I have a set game plan that I use almost every time. I start the conversation with simple observations about the bar/meeting place, then slowly up the teasing and humor. In the first 5 minutes or so I’m very talkative, this was a skill I needed to develop over the years because I’m naturally introverted. After 5-10 minutes I notice that the vast majority of women are very comfortable. I’ve been told that I have a ‘good guy face’ which I guess helps in establishing comfort and trust.
This girl had a really cool vibe. She was friendly, funny(a rare quality in a female), and most of all feminine. She was following my lead all night.
After about 3 hours the moment of truth arrived. I knew she lived a few minutes away, so I went for the gold.
“I’ve had too much to drink, I don’t think I can drive back for a little while. How about I crash on your couch for a little bit so I can sober up?”
“Hmm, well I don’t want you to drive back now because of the drinks, but at the same time I don’t want you to get the wrong impression.”
“I don’t want you to come over expecting something that’s not going to happen.”
“No problem, it’ll only be a little while until I sober up.”
So I get to her apartment, and we sit on the couch. She puts on the TV and we’re already close and touching at this point. After a few minutes we begin making out, our first kiss as I didn’t kiss her at the bar. I explore her body a bit with my hands, it’s excellent. During a short break in the action she says:
“I was wondering whether to show my boobs or my legs tonight…so I went with legs. Did you notice them at the bar? What do you think, nicest legs ever?” She gave me a sexy smile.
I have to admit that she was turning me on.
She gives me some resistance as I try to take her panties off.
“We need to stop this is way too much for a first date.”
“I don’t want you to do anything you’re not comfortable with.”
Then I just keep going anyway.
After a little more time, I grab her hand and say
Then we go to her bedroom.
The next day, I was amazed how my mind completely internalized the case studies. I read the book three times in just a few days, and my mind had absorbed the information so completely that I was able to use it for myself.
I was also amazed by how similar the stories described in the book matched my experience(s). I’ve always suspected that game was pretty universal, but it wasn’t until reading that I really realized how much so. People are people, and there are so many patterns in our innate and socially learned behavior. The girl from Friday was an ex-volleyball player and asked my astrological sign like some of the girls in the book. It was just eerie how similar things matched up.
The important thing I learned though was to always go for the gold and shoot for the stars.